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WomanFriend · 03-10-2009, 09:25 AM

tallulah -

I am glad that you have been able to spend some pleasant days with your A.

I only recently joined SR so I have not read your story yet.

I will let you know that when my XABF and I finally lived in separate places, our relationship and my well-being immediately improved. Our relationship didn't last, but my path to recovery is still going strong. Even when the pleasant days you've recently had, do not forget the reason(s) that prompted you to move in the first place.

If you decide to stay, and his new found communication doesn't stay, how will that make you feel?

It also seems like you are letting him hold the decision to work things out. Sometimes our decisions are contingent on what another person wants or is willing to do, but we have to make sure that our core decisions are coming from ourselves. If he's willing to continue to work, so are you. That makes sense. He may not be able to be honest with himself about whether or not he's able to continue to work, though.

Good luck with everything.

03-10-2009, 09:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
WomanFriend Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: North Carolina Posts: 17	tallulah - I am glad that you have been able to spend some pleasant days with your A. I only recently joined SR so I have not read your story yet. I will let you know that when my XABF and I finally lived in separate places, our relationship and my well-being immediately improved. Our relationship didn't last, but my path to recovery is still going strong. Even when the pleasant days you've recently had, do not forget the reason(s) that prompted you to move in the first place. If you decide to stay, and his new found communication doesn't stay, how will that make you feel? It also seems like you are letting him hold the decision to work things out. Sometimes our decisions are contingent on what another person wants or is willing to do, but we have to make sure that our core decisions are coming from ourselves. If he's willing to continue to work, so are you. That makes sense. He may not be able to be honest with himself about whether or not he's able to continue to work, though. Good luck with everything.