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Dime · 03-09-2009, 03:48 PM

OK, so it's been over a year since I have been sober. I had a lot of people tell me to wait a year before having a relationship with a woman. Ironically some of the people that told me this met their significant other in early sobriety and probably fell real close to the definition of 13th steppin. They have some of the most solid relationships I have ever seen and are awesome parents.

Working the steps has changed me considerably. I am so proper with the ladies that I actually had one of them ask me if I was gay because I never hit on any of the ladies. This never would have never happened before I had worked the steps.

I am attracted to sober women who have worked the program as we have so much in common. How can I ask one of the ladies for a date without being clobbered with the "Stay away from the Ladies" thing? I'm dying to try out some of "new principles" I have learned working the steps in a relationship. I am at a point where establishing a meaningful relationship is a very important part of my recovery. I have something inside me that I want to share on an intimate basis.

Thanks

03-09-2009, 03:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dime Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,117	Dating Sober Women OK, so it's been over a year since I have been sober. I had a lot of people tell me to wait a year before having a relationship with a woman. Ironically some of the people that told me this met their significant other in early sobriety and probably fell real close to the definition of 13th steppin. They have some of the most solid relationships I have ever seen and are awesome parents. Working the steps has changed me considerably. I am so proper with the ladies that I actually had one of them ask me if I was gay because I never hit on any of the ladies. This never would have never happened before I had worked the steps. I am attracted to sober women who have worked the program as we have so much in common. How can I ask one of the ladies for a date without being clobbered with the "Stay away from the Ladies" thing? I'm dying to try out some of "new principles" I have learned working the steps in a relationship. I am at a point where establishing a meaningful relationship is a very important part of my recovery. I have something inside me that I want to share on an intimate basis. Thanks