[blessed4x]

(((Daisy)))...The thought of going it alone with my 4 has been scary for me. I think you are amazing for holding your boundaries, demonstrating to your kids how healthy people behave.

I agree with Barbara about possibly lowering your standards on the cleaning. It sounds like the kids are old enough to start helping with chores too. I would get out the crock pot, plan EASY meals a week at a time, and that way you are having that dinner time together to talk about your day, laugh, cry when you all need to, and establish a routine the kids can look forward to.

Don't neglect yourself during this stressful time. Even a hot soak in the tub and painting your nails after all the kids are asleep will do wonders for you. For me, the beginning was making some concrete SMALL changes.......I'm reading out of the Language of Letting Go every day. It takes 5-10 minutes for me to read, process, and jot a few things in my journal.

Hugs to you! You are going to be just fine!!