[ToughChoices]

Managing three kids on your own sounds like a huge undertaking to me - Of course you feel overwhelmed from time to time!

Breathe deep. You're doing a lovely job. You're making a better life for your family, one step at a time. Things will get out of whack and disorganized now and then - just steer the ship back in the right direction. You'll get where you want to be.

Reading your post, it sounds like your AH is trying to play the victim card instead of acknowledging that HIS choices have brought him to a place where he cannot be trusted to care for your children alone.
I say this not because you can change his mindset or convince him that he is, indeed responsible for his current difficulties, only to make you aware that his is a B.S. line of thinking. Don't buy the "woe is me and my supervised visitation" crap. You are making smart, safe choices for your kids. If that's inconvenient for him, too bad.

As far as the family situation, if you've historically had a good relationship with your FIL and MIL, I see no reason not to try and continue that relationship - especially if they're in a position to help you with the little ones. Maybe your AH did ask them not to talk to you. Maybe they will "take his side". It's not your responsibility to read minds and try to avoid making people feel uncomfortable. If they have decided not to help you or speak to you then it is their job to say so.

Tough stuff. Keep your chin up, daisy-lou! I'm sending LOTS of positive thoughts your way!

-TC