I'm sorry your birthday wasn't all you expected, but I am glad you came here to share. Good for you, recognizing that you are still trying to control what he does and "make" him care. It's very hard, but if you can gradually shift some of the energy that is focused on him back to you, it will help. Have you started up your meds again? Dropping antidepressants cold turkey can really mess with your head...I hope you can work on re-establishing a relationship with a professional and getting things taken care of in your new city. Hugs