[Pelican]

i feel terrible and devasted for how my sister must feel inside and the struggles she probably feels inside herself.

She's an alcoholic. She does not have the feelings and devastation that you a "normie" have. She drowns those feelings. She is numb. You showing up with your emotions out in the open is drama for her. She wants you to chill out and get her out of that restrictive environment and back to her booze. If you do that for her, she will be happy. She may not thank you, but she will be happy.

I'm an alcoholic in recovery. I am offering you my experience as an alcoholic and as someone in recovery dealing with an active alcoholic.

If you were to pick her bottom, you would have chosen this or past experiences to be her bottom. It is not for you to choose, however. That is the hard part. It is not for us to choose someone else's turning point from alcohol addiction.

I have started attending alanon. I do recommend alanon for you and your nephews. You mentioned a deadline of Monday. Whose deadline? She is an adult and she will make her decisions.

I am sorry that you are feeling hurt, angry, and helpless. Please take care of yourself and do what is best for you.