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Originally Posted by adviceneeded  Thank you Dee
I have looked into alanon and am looking SO forward to a meeting. I understand your statments and i know this is an open ended question and one that can probably never be truly answered BUT:
When is the bottom? Her health ( liver pancreatitis), now a near death fall, losing her children, her home, convulsions, detox centres, i feel my sister may die.
I went as long as 2 years not speaking with her. That i know didnt change the disease and the progression. This is not about me i understand and i feel terrible and devasted for how my sister must feel inside and the struggles she probably feels inside herself. I just cant imagine with everything that has happened what her rock rock bottom is....
Im scared for her. |
welcome!!!
This has helped me in the past, you may find it helpful also.
It is so much easier to accept life as it is and make the best of it - there is a catch however. When we accept reality, and let go of trying to force our will on life and other people, there are feelings to deal with. One of the reasons we keep trying to control someone else (
to get an alcoholic to stop drinking for instance) is because with all that frustration and anger, mental obsession and rumination, we don't have time to stop and feel how much it hurts, or how scared we are, or feel the grief of letting that other person go. The reason we try to control other people is to
protect ourselves from our feelings - and it is important to admit that. Of course we want what is "right" for them, what is good for them - but we don't know what their "right" path is. Some people are supposed to die of Alcoholism - that is their path.
--Robert Burney