Hi StillWaters,
You are right, maybe it would be
"Until disaster strikes and there is no turning back". For a dear friend's AH uncle, that meant death today..
As long as we are working on ourselves I see nothing wrong in learning more about alcoholism, codependence and disorders in general. Maybe it is because I like theater so much, I like analyzing personality traits of people I find interesting somehow. To learn where they "may" come from of course knowing we will never fully explain anything... learning about my ex's pain or self centeredness makes me realize how much pain I have carrying along, how much selfishness. It is like watching yourself in a mirror of long-hidden truth.