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Old 03-02-2009, 06:07 PM
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Barbara52
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Originally Posted by sailorjohn View Post
Just my experience, fwiw, I spent a long time trying to figure out what was wrong with my ex, convenient way of taking the focus off my own 'issues'
I could speculate about just what make xAH an A til the cows come home. None of it makes a lick of difference. He is who and what he is, and it was not acceptable to me. I could not live with any of it, whatever the reasons behind it are. All I could do was recognize it wasn't acceptable and figure out what I wanted to make my life better. That is all anyone can do.

I too think for too many people trying to figure out the reasons, the whys behind our As drinking is a means of avoiding our own issues. Lord knows I didn't look into my own head for my whys until I came here and started down my own road to recovery.
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