Column 1: who/what irks you?
Column 2: why?
Column 3: what is affected by this? (money, pride, relationships)
Column 4: what is your part? (there is always our part...even if the other person is in the wrong...we let these things eat at us and drag us down long after the offense occurred.)
Example:
1. My father
2. Ran out on us
3. Affects everything: money - mom had to work two jobs, christmas was always spare; pride - i was the only kid on the block with no dad; relationships - fought with my brothers all the time, mom was never around
4. My part = I have used this as a pity-magnet my entire life = an excuse to drink and drug
Quote:
Originally Posted by newey  I don't know why not one person can explain how to begin to do step 4 in plain English. Instead, they immediately jump to major concepts like resentment. Hello, I'm just a baby and need baby steps!
I have a paper and pen, now what? |