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Originally Posted by backporchpoet  I have a question for anyone that has an opinion.
I am a lesbian. I've been out since I was 14. Long story short, ended up having a son at the age of 22. Now, I am very butch. Not overweight, shaved head butch...I just look like a male model out of an American Eagle catalog haha.
Do you think if he turns out to be gay, he might turn around and blame me for letting him have a few barbies as a kid or that people will think I "forced" homosexuality on him? |
I came out at 14 as well!!
I am femme. I mean like really super stealth lesbian femme. I started in on high heels and make-up in the 3rd grade. I'm also gay (surprise Mom!).
No one could have changed those things for me. Ever. (believe me I tried being butch when I first came out. Yeah. No. )
If you try to make him more masculine than he is, he is just going to resent you down the line. I wouldn't care about what others think and more about what my son grows up as. Do you want him to feel shame, even if he's Judy garland and Rupaul in one?
People are born gay. You can't "teach" him to be gay,anymore than you could force him to be straight if he's not.
(although I'm bias he sounds so damned cute!!)