[ex D-Boy]

hey everybody. so wanted to get your advice on this situation. I have talked with my therapist already about it and Im not sure if I agree with his opinion so I wanna bounce it off a few of you. hopefully you guys have some experience with this and could give me some advice.


Lately, I have been finding that I have been attracted to a girl. Very much I feel like and she has a past history of abusing drugs (opiates same as me) but she is also in recovery now. What do you all think about hooking up with somebody who was an ex- user. I am a little worried about us both relapsing together but she seems to be very independent and has been off drugs for a longer period of time than me.

MY therapist seems to think the reason I connect with her so much is for a genuine need of "treatment" and he feels like I am seeking out for her to save me and such? I dont see it that way, i like the fact that she has been through what I have been, and is able to relate to the feelings I struggle with (whether it be with family, craving, or just stress of the future)

So anyway, my question for you guys out there is, Once you all got sober, did you find it was safer and better to seek out females who never had a problem with addiction or did you go the route of choosing a recovered person because you guys had so much in common and were able to connect deeply with addiction as well as other subjects?? Which would you think is smarter?? am i doomed to relapse if i continue my relationship with this girl??

any thoughts, advice, similar experiences would be appreciated. thanks alot guys~