[MagicMan08]

I almost feel my whole attitude and outlook of my life has changed for the better since I have became sober. I feel nothing can get me down, and look forward to the things I can accomplish now that I am free of what held me back for several years. And actually have some self confidence back. I know I am a good person and have something to offer to this world and anyone in my life.

There is a problem with this. My girlfriend, I feel is stuck in the same way of life and thinking that she was in several months ago. Her life sucks and to her, it is my fault. I can never do anything right....I don't call her every day. Now I call her everyday and now it is not early enough. And I am a non-caring ******* for not calling her today until 8:30pm (texted earlier).... Or I didn't do this or that per her expectations. I feel I cannot win this battle.....and she constantly verbally abuses me. Now that I am sober I don't put up with the verbal abuse....I am like I don't say that to you....don't do it to me.

Its like **** an a. Can she just relax and enjoy the moment for what it is....and not be like....well you didn't do this and I expect that and you never did this before so now i am not putting up with it.

Some would say run and run far away. Well I have been with this woman for 4 years (all of which I drank) and still have this feeling we can work it out and be happy. But it is like....she has been pulling this **** every 2-3 days and expects me to wait on her hand and foot to keep her happy....otherwise I am selfish or an *******. Her idea of keeping me happy or working on our relationship is driving out to see me as I cannot drive....while she is here I have to constantly feel pressure to find something for us to do....or struggle to find food she likes to eat because she won't do any of this for her self.

Anyone have experiences with this?

I am having serious doubts about this situation improving.....as I can never get up to the point where I genuinely want to do these (expectation) things without forcing them. This is a result of any emotional feeling I get towards her in a day or two is deflated when we have a talk about everything I don't do or didn't do enough of (rinse and repeat). I pretty much said to her...."What the frick do I do RIGHT?" I cannot even remember the last time she complimented me and I toss em to her left and right and reassure her I care and want her in my life. (thanks for listening, but I am at this serious crossroads in my life, as I pretty much only have my family and her left as close people in my life that I can go out and do stuff with)

But I guess as someone may say, do the pros of this relationship outweigh the cons? (she would prolly say the same, heh)