Thanks Daisy30
I am in a Al-anon group and i am understanding that alcohol is very different from drugs, like i said my addiction was drugs and it almost destroyed my life but i have been clean 17 years and very happy. Now i will admit going through this with another has brought back some of my own feelings about my recovery both good and bad!
As far as my group they are really firm that i not let the person i love get away with the BS, what concerns me is i think the reason for the drop out of site for a couple days was because they were drinking again and they are angry for me calling them on it and they are lying to me!! The lack of trust is what hurts the most as i love them very much...