[AW2486]

For the second time in 3 months I have a sponsee cut off all contact after few times getting together to read the Big Book.

First guy was my cousin I was a bit evangelical (enthusiastic) with him.
So taking what I learned from that.
The second guy I was more laid back and he said he enjoyed it and looked forward to the next time. Now he won’t answer the phone.

I talked with two people I respect about it.

My Sponsor … 26yrs …. Took a real laid back approach with me. I was he first sponsee so he was learning as he did it. He said, lay back awhile, let them get comfortable with the fellowship and then offer the book.

My Mother … AODA counselor between 1973-2000 .. She said the same thing my sponsor said. Give them as much time as they need before bringing out the book. She said she learned in counselor training that the brain takes along time to detox, sometimes months.

I don’t feel I’m coming across as a big book thumper with a big evangelic stick. Maybe I am and I just don’t see it. Both of them I talked about the BB approach before we started. And they both agreed to that approach.

Two rejections in a short span now. Guess I’m looking for answers.

When is the right time to pull out the Big Book?

Any ESH, suggestions or constructive criticism is most welcome.

Thanks for reading..

Andy