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laurie6781 · 02-02-2009, 05:38 PM

I don't think you are going to like my response, lol

Resentments. 99.9999999999% of MY resentments come from my UNFULFILLED EXPECTATIONS.

YEP.

What is he/she/it/they not doing, that I want he/she/it/they to do, when I want he/she/it/they to do 'it', to MAKE ME MORE COMFORTABLE.

Well, when I finally got that one through my thick skull, I finally figured out that NO was a complete sentence.

So, check your motives........................................why do you CONTINUE to give this person a ride? Why are you letting this person 'rent' space in your head? etc

It is very simple to just say, "sorry, I cannot give you a ride today" and walk away, instead of standing there waiting and waiting and waiting for the question. Nip it in the bud.

Took me a long time to figure out that it was alright to do that. Took me a long time to "say what I mean, mean what I say, and NOT say it meanly."

Now, you also have the recourse, to PRAY for the fellow for 14 days straight, and if you miss a day, the 14 days starts over. PRAY that he gets everything he may ever want.

That was a good one for me too. After 3 or 4 'start overs' it was just easier to write the resentment down on a small piece of paper, take that piece of paper and fold it up even smaller and put it in my GOD BOX with the other resentments. Then if I want to 'stew' on it some more, I had to go physically dig it out of the GOD BOX and there were just to many resentments in there, to have to open each one up and if it wasn't the correct one, fold it all back up.

Sort of taught me, how really stupid it was for me to hang onto resentments.

Hope that helps a bit.

Love and hugs,

02-02-2009, 05:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
laurie6781 Belgian Sheepdog Adictee Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: In Today Posts: 4,648	I don't think you are going to like my response, lol Resentments. 99.9999999999% of MY resentments come from my UNFULFILLED EXPECTATIONS. YEP. What is he/she/it/they not doing, that I want he/she/it/they to do, when I want he/she/it/they to do 'it', to MAKE ME MORE COMFORTABLE. Well, when I finally got that one through my thick skull, I finally figured out that NO was a complete sentence. So, check your motives........................................why do you CONTINUE to give this person a ride? Why are you letting this person 'rent' space in your head? etc It is very simple to just say, "sorry, I cannot give you a ride today" and walk away, instead of standing there waiting and waiting and waiting for the question. Nip it in the bud. Took me a long time to figure out that it was alright to do that. Took me a long time to "say what I mean, mean what I say, and NOT say it meanly." Now, you also have the recourse, to PRAY for the fellow for 14 days straight, and if you miss a day, the 14 days starts over. PRAY that he gets everything he may ever want. That was a good one for me too. After 3 or 4 'start overs' it was just easier to write the resentment down on a small piece of paper, take that piece of paper and fold it up even smaller and put it in my GOD BOX with the other resentments. Then if I want to 'stew' on it some more, I had to go physically dig it out of the GOD BOX and there were just to many resentments in there, to have to open each one up and if it wasn't the correct one, fold it all back up. Sort of taught me, how really stupid it was for me to hang onto resentments. Hope that helps a bit. Love and hugs, __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you trudgin thru alligators up to your butt)