[FightingIrish]

I am looking for some additional perspectives on a matter. I just uncovered a major resentment I have been holding on to for weeks without realizing it. It involves people asking things of me and my feeling that either a) they are not asking in the proper way, or b) they don't really need what they are asking for.

The main instance is a guy who comes to the same meetings I attend who is always in need of a ride. About 90% of what he says to me involves asking for a ride, or telling me that he's going to ask me for a ride. By my estimate, I am one of about 3 people on his list to ask for rides. I find him quite irritating to talk to in general, which is only made worse by the fact that I'm then on edge waiting for him to ask me for a ride after meetings.

I happen to know that he does not drive by choice...no DUIs or suspensions or anything like that. He just happens to not have a car in a part of the country where you would need a car. I know he gets on a lot of people's nerves because of this. He also shares in meetings about how he's short on cash, asks to borrow money, etc.

I have done inventory and discussed with my sponsor. He is of the "I am powerless over people, places, things, and this situation" variety. He says to continue inventorying it and to pray for this defect of mine to be released.

I am infuriated that something this mundane is stirring up so many character defects, but I am at a loss for a way to handle it that does not create further misery for myself. Maybe this is not something I can "handle", but what I do know is that I'm going to be asked for a ride and/or money again...

M