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dotcom · 04-21-2004, 09:59 AM

time,

i would have to agree with bike and gooch. it is not them, it is how WE react to THEM. blame just makes life a whole lot more bitter and digs the hole deeper. my ex did numerous unjustices to me, etc. and i blamed him for so long for my unhappiness and misery... when in fact, it was ME who is responsible for making ME happy. and now i can see it was a two way street. regardless if it was not a 2 way street, holding resentments and blame puts it all on us. now, who wants that?! i am really enjoying not taking things from the group i go to to "heart". im going back tonite to it and am going for ME. not for drama, not becuz of anything else but ME. i could blame all my using on my ex because he gave me my first line. but, ya know... he is not my business. he is no better or worse than i am and it is my choice to use/get clean. being mad at him just enables me to use/b**** more. think about it. are you happy with YOU?

hugs,

dot

04-21-2004, 09:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,636	Re: The hurt that fuel my addiction time, i would have to agree with bike and gooch. it is not them, it is how WE react to THEM. blame just makes life a whole lot more bitter and digs the hole deeper. my ex did numerous unjustices to me, etc. and i blamed him for so long for my unhappiness and misery... when in fact, it was ME who is responsible for making ME happy. and now i can see it was a two way street. regardless if it was not a 2 way street, holding resentments and blame puts it all on us. now, who wants that?! i am really enjoying not taking things from the group i go to to "heart". im going back tonite to it and am going for ME. not for drama, not becuz of anything else but ME. i could blame all my using on my ex because he gave me my first line. but, ya know... he is not my business. he is no better or worse than i am and it is my choice to use/get clean. being mad at him just enables me to use/b**** more. think about it. are you happy with YOU? hugs, dot __________________ probably not.