[sugErspun]

betreurt.

The fourth column is not about fault - it is about harm. A lot of things in my fourth column have little to do with the person (item) in the 1st column. It is what I "did" with that resentment and caused harm to others.

For instance
Column 1 - My Sister
Column 2 - Told my friends that I had a crush on a certain girl - let my secret out.
Column 3 (short version) - Pride, Personal relations, sex relations, ambition, self-esteem
Column 4 - I find it hard to open up to people, I don't want to let my darkest secrets known to anyone because they won't keep confidence and I will be emberassed..

I could expand a little more - particularly in the area where this belief hurt others (I don't let people in - I have a wall up..it creates a lot of pain on both sides).

Column 4 is about the harm I caused...it made it a lot easier to put at the top of the page "show me what I need to see/show me the harm I have caused".

And then just write....personally I wrote freeform the first time.

Let me know if I can be of any assistance.