I find that I am very depressed lately. My BF has an addicted son who has brought drama, verbal abuse, and threats of violence to his entire family. However, my BF has set boundaries and deadlines, and things do seem to be moving forward a bit. The AS will be out of the house by Feb 2 latest, and the rest of the family should be able to find some peace from the day-to-day drama.
I have been as supportive as I can be for my BF, and have tried not to take on the role of co-codie. Now, I am depressed....
I keep thinking about my own sister who is a recovering coke addict/alcoholic, and my parents are (I see now) enablers. She has been clean for more than 13 years, but still blames our parents for all of her problems. She adopted (while clean) more than 12 dogs over a period of 1 year, and of course had no place to live with them....so my parents let her live with them. She has not been able to work because she has no kennel to keep the dogs during the day...so my parents support her. At the moment, they are even building her a house on their farm so she has a place of her own and she can build kennels for the dogs.
*I don't have a dog, even though I would like one, because I do not have the money to responsibly own one.
*No one is building a house for me.
*My ex-husband got remarried in November to a woman much younger than I in what I understand was a beautiful wedding (for ours, he was grouchy during the whole reception).
*I don't know if the family situation for my BF will ever settle down enough for us to consider getting married.
*I don't know if the Catholic Church will ever grant me the annulment so that we could get married if that's what we decide.
*I don't understand why I feel this way now about things that have nothing to do with the current stress of my BF's situation with his AS.
I DO need to be more grateful for all the things I do have, but I'm finding it very hard right now.
Thanks for listening.....HG