Today, my BF had a real estate assessment team come to his home to make suggestions about what to do to make the house more sellable. He rarely sees his AS who is out late at night and comes back during the wee hours, so he left him a note telling him about their arrival and that they would need to get into EVERY room in the house.
That's right.....he meets the team, they get to his room, open the door....there he is crashed in his bed boxers only and all!
As you may recall from previous posts, the AS almost died over the summer from his drinking and is now using crack. Apparently his doctor wants to see him on Friday but for some reason could not reach him....so called his dad. So, my BF calls him to tell him, and AS is just sarcastic and hateful. Well, since he is already behaving like an a**, my BF decides to go ahead and also ask him "So how is the job hunt going? Have you looked for someplace to live?" More venom from the son, of course! He even managed to talk his dad into printing out some listings for apartments from Craigs List!
I just keep thinking the boxer shorts in bed incident is the AS's passive-aggressive attempt to manipulate his father into delaying the sale of the house for as long as possible. Any time a job possibility is mentioned, he has a million excuses why he can't even apply (I can't get to the internet, I have no way to get there.....). When a place to rent is mentioned he has excuses again about not being able to get to the internet to look for anything or it's in a "bad" neighborhood (so....you are a verbally abusive addict, you have no job, you have no money, you don't even help around the house....and you want to live in a penthouse at your father's expense
).
My BF is determined his son will be out at the end of his 30-day eviction notice....and his AS is determined to see that it won't happen! It is really going to get horribly ugly from here, I'm so afraid! I want this kid to get some help, but how much more can anyone take of this?
Ugh....sorry for the rant!
HG