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Someone told me that when we try to control someone else, we give them all the power. Because if they do what we want, we are pleased, but if they do not we are angry or sad or frustrated. We gave them the power over how we would feel.
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Ann, thank you for this.
In a meeting the other night I said that due to alcohol we focus our power in places where it does the least good, and we become powerless. Ann's post helps me see this.
The 1st step had been kind of a stumbling block for me. Years ago when I attended a few alanon meetings I just didn't get it. I was out of college and on my own and all those years of growing up in an alcoholic family were in the past - so the present tense 'are powerless' didn't make sense. I was also copying my AF's outlook on trauma/mourning/struggles - 'just forget it, put it behind you, ect, ect'
Yes - taking advice on dealing with the past from an A!
Another bad job review, another lost relationship, a lost brother, mix in a bunch of stress, and its no longer in the past. It is now.
Sooooo...I'm back.
Step one makes sense now.