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happygirl81 · 01-06-2009, 11:45 AM

I've been with this guy three years, he has a cocaine addiction which i didn't know about until i was in to deep and had no idea about addiction til i came on here.

We'd been rowing recently and one night in between Xmas and New Year he was acting stranglely on the phone saying he was going to bed at 8.30pm which was unusual and i couldn't help but feel anxious, i just needed to know for myself if he had someone else there so i drove round to his house

When i got there he wouldn't let me in and had to confess he had another girl there. I went crazy, i was so upset but he kept swearing there was nothing going on and he just wanted an outsider to talk to about his problems. He was on coke i could tell and it scared me as i've never known him to do it in the week.

This girl is friends of our mutual friends but i don't know her or have never met her but apparantly she takes coke aswell. I was so upset and naturally split with him.

Since then i've had phone calls of sorries and he wants to make things work between us, then calls saying hes confused and needs time, then calls saying its over and we just don't work together and he doesn't love me, then calls saying he loves me and wants me and he said he doesn't love me before because he was angry and his head was screwed, then back to give me a few months and we can talk.

He swears swears all the the time he has no interest in this girl and there was absolutely nothing going on. Then a few days after New year i see pictures of them together on face book from New Years Eve??

What the hell is he doing or thinking? Does he have no respect? What has happened to him? we were so close and i never thought he would do this? Has he just stopped loving me?

I asked him about these pics and hes still saying get it through your head there is nothing going on. He keeps saying you havn't got a clue have you.

I just want the truth so i can let go once and for all. I also feel so jealous of this girl, i keep seeing her face and these pictures of them. Its making me feel sick.

01-06-2009, 11:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
happygirl81 Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 12	Caught him with another woman I've been with this guy three years, he has a cocaine addiction which i didn't know about until i was in to deep and had no idea about addiction til i came on here. We'd been rowing recently and one night in between Xmas and New Year he was acting stranglely on the phone saying he was going to bed at 8.30pm which was unusual and i couldn't help but feel anxious, i just needed to know for myself if he had someone else there so i drove round to his house When i got there he wouldn't let me in and had to confess he had another girl there. I went crazy, i was so upset but he kept swearing there was nothing going on and he just wanted an outsider to talk to about his problems. He was on coke i could tell and it scared me as i've never known him to do it in the week. This girl is friends of our mutual friends but i don't know her or have never met her but apparantly she takes coke aswell. I was so upset and naturally split with him. Since then i've had phone calls of sorries and he wants to make things work between us, then calls saying hes confused and needs time, then calls saying its over and we just don't work together and he doesn't love me, then calls saying he loves me and wants me and he said he doesn't love me before because he was angry and his head was screwed, then back to give me a few months and we can talk. He swears swears all the the time he has no interest in this girl and there was absolutely nothing going on. Then a few days after New year i see pictures of them together on face book from New Years Eve?? What the hell is he doing or thinking? Does he have no respect? What has happened to him? we were so close and i never thought he would do this? Has he just stopped loving me? I asked him about these pics and hes still saying get it through your head there is nothing going on. He keeps saying you havn't got a clue have you. I just want the truth so i can let go once and for all. I also feel so jealous of this girl, i keep seeing her face and these pictures of them. Its making me feel sick.