Hi Ginger, welcome to SR!
My abf admitted he had a problem he named it alcoholism before I did, went to AA etc but couldn't quit. He tried, lots and lots of times! I truely believe he wanted to get sober, but couldn't at that time.
I ended up ending it due to financial insecurity amoungst other things, at the time, I was learning well how to detach etc and probably could've gone on longer doing that, but I think finally the lies and issues etc got the better of it all, and it was time for me to call it quits.
Some folk stay and manage to work it out. My friend Natalie aka The Missus was lucky enough that her bf found recovery, they are still together and there are lots of others who are still at home and hoping that day comes soon for them.
The most important thing to learn is how to develop your own serenity and peace and how to maintain it despite the chaos of addiction around you - no easy matter and one I could not accomplish. I found my serenity by ending my relationship.
Read through the parmenant 'sticky' posts and keep posting/reading,
Lots of love to you
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
