((lost sue)) My AH had been a heavy drinker for 20 years and quit for 3 weeks without the serious side effects. He did it as a response to me telling him I was leaving him. My boundary is that I never want to see him drunk again and no alcohol in the home. He has not been drunk for nearly 2 months which I have never seen in the 8 years I have known him. He is still drinking maybe 2 beers a week (I'm unsure because I really don't want to monitor it). I don't know if this is how it will be for the rest of our lives or if it will be a matter of time before the slide downwards occurs. But I think the healthy way for me to approach it is to enjoy this period. Even if he was to do recovery the way I think he should ie. AA and abstain completely, there still is a chance that he could relapse so I really want to let go of the worry.