Old 12-30-2008, 09:11 AM
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Barbara52
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I came to the conclusion that the reasons behind xAH's alcoholism are irrelevant for me. He will or will not deal with his issues. I will work on my own issues and growth regardless of just why xAH is an alcoholic. Trying to figure out the whys of his problems do not help me figure out the whys of my problems in the slightest. In fact, trying to find reasons for his behaviors may actually harm my personal recovery efforts since for me it could too easily slide into my codie tendencies and let me find excuses for his behaviors when what I need to focus on is my own side of the street. I let him deal with his side on his own as he sees fit.
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