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well ive heard the phrase but i think for me its about taking care of yourself so that YOU ARE ABLE to care for anyone else.
for me its about recovery's structure. I see it as first things first is God. my relationship with God in steps 1 2 and 3. once understood in my own way I come to know and love me in steps 4 5 6 7.....then in steps 8 and 9 i release the guilt and baggage of my relationships with others.. baggage that has always caused relationship problems.....then in step 10 i maintain the new me. i FORGE the new me with gods help day by day little by little....steps 11 deepen my own purpose and life and step 12 allows me to live a life of example and be there for others......this is it in a nutshell buts its been a much more complex journey......
bascially if i dont feel connected to something bigger than me first thing in the day my relatinship withmyself and others tends to suffer.
according to my dictionary being selfish means "to consider only ones own needs without considering any others" nowhere does it say this is good or bad, nor give it any moral judgment.....for me , taking care of myself first may seem selfish but really is making me more able to give more, and realise what is not mine to change and where i need to let go as well.
i think your friend may have been suggesting just to take more time for yourself, do something nice for yourself and get to know yourself.....its funny u post this today because i read something Buddha once said (messenger not as important as message) something like we look over the world for someone deserving of our love but there is no one more deserving of our love than ourselves...YOU deserve your own love the most.
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