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Step Three deals with three issues: control, surrender, and decision making. In step One we lwerned taht there are many things in life we can't control. In step two we entertained the possiblity that we might not have to control everything, because there is something or someone good in the universe we can trust. In step three we decide to act on that possiblity. We decided to let this spiritual power guide our live rather than trying to control life ourselves.
Giving up control (or letting go) of the things we can't and don't have to control involves learning several skills. The first is the skill of wisdom: recoggnizing the difference between things we can change and things we can't. The second is the skill of surrender. Surrrender is different from submission to a force that wants to control us. Many of us know how to either control or be controlled gby someone, but surrender--opening ourselves to the guidance of a good guide without falling under someone's control--may be a new expereince. The third skill deals with making wise decisions. Many of us feel relatively comfortable making decisions in our roles as mothers, workers, and hoiusehold-keepers, but we lack confidence in making decisions to care for our ineer selves. Others of us are unaccustomed to being decisive in any area of our lives.
In this chapter you will learn about control and practice the skills of wisdom, surrender and decision making. You may have spent many years building your control muscles; now you will start building your "turning it over" muscles.
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