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Originally Posted by Vintersemestre  Telling someone they aren't "CLEAN" when they're doing everything they can to become so isn't very nice. Some people simply cannot tolerate the withdrawal from opiates (it's bad - REALLY REALLY bad). That doesn't mean they aren't any less sincere in their efforts to stop abusing illegal narcotics. This is one of many many reasons why I despise NA, dogmatism on par with organized religion. |
I didn't see anywhere in the original post that anyone told anyone else they weren't clean. To come right out and make a statement like that to someone is, IMO, inappropriate and generally ignorant. What I understood was that one addict was asking another addict for advice or an opinion. And just like it's a judgment to make a call on whether someone is clean or not, it's also a judgment to say that they are
"doing everything they can," - are they really? And how do you know?
I, for one, cannot assume I know 100% what someone else's desire level is or how genuine they are. I usually go by what I see and what I feel -even then I can be wrong. I also don't make it a point to go around announcing my views on this or that, but when I'm asked for an opinion I'll often share it. Just because I believe someone isn't clean doesn't mean it's my responsibility to tell them. If asked...I'll be honest.