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Originally Posted by winnie12  Cassandra one question - do you know the line between something being his problem and something being yours? Right now is this your problem? if its not then why should you be responsible to solve the problem. If you do help to solve his problem it then becomes your problem and then you have to deal with the consequences not him. |
Yes, I see all of these things as being his problem because I know his has options. They may not be good options but he has them. Now whether or not he choses to look at it that way is his problem.
I just want to be able to see the manipulation as exactly that. When I see it, like I said before, then I dont feel like I have to SOLVE his problems because he made these decisions. I told him what he had to do to remedy this situation he doesnt want to do that so therefore its not an issue for me.
It makes me feel better telling myself its manipulation vs telling myself that he doesnt love us anymore. If that makes sense....