[woodtick]

Hi S,
It sounds like you don't have a new doc yet. I hope you are able to find someone that wants to do his job at least!

I think I'm going to type that article on communication and post it in the relationships forum so everybody can read it. It describes your husband's reaction to a tee. Actually all of us men apparently have this problem. We just can't handle being told about a problem that we can't solve. It is absolute torture for us. On the other hand women have to talk about things that are bothering them. It is torture for women to not talk. They just want somebody to listen that's all. No solutions, just listen and give support some times. Once you both understand that, I think a compromise might look like this: maybe he can start listening with a compassionate ear and not think about solutions all the time and you can maybe be more selective about when you choose to discuss emotional things. I haven't tried this experiment yet but it sounds logical to me. What do you think?