Wow.
I, too, am a bit disturbed by some of the stuff I read about sponsors on these boards. I often think,
"Where in the heck did they get that from??" I never knew being a sponsor was something automatically expected of those who worked all 12 steps? If I'm not mistaken, the 12th step talks about us trying to carry the message and it tells us that this can be done numerous ways - not just through sponsorship. There are too many ways to be of service and carry the message than to get stuck on whether or not we sponsor other addicts or not. That's ridiculous. We certainly can't make anyone be our sponsees...nor should we try. And anyone who would try to measure my recovery by that gauge needs to check their own.
For those of us who have done step work, there is never really a "starting over from scratch" point. Like Sugah said, once it's in you - there it is. Sure, we can always do them again, but it's more like peeling an onion (we go deeper), not starting over.
Finally... I won't tell you what to do, but I was always told that everybody doesn't tell the same lie. I also learned that my HP tends to speak to me through people:
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Both fellowships said that made no sense..that I shouldn't be forcing my will upon others.....God will bring the person to me when the time is right...
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Sounds to me like God has spoken.