Ang, I think you are terrific. From what I know of you here, you are always sharing from the heart, and encouraging others. Not all of us make good sponsors. It sounds like you are active in service and if you were my sponsee, that would be just fine.
I don't understand why she would have you start over at Step 1. Did she elaborate as to what she meant by you should be 'further along'? Step 1 is about powerlessness and unmanageability - do you feel that this is something you need to revisit today?
I give out my number a lot - and don't often get calls. That's okay. I'm like you - I give rides, make coffee, set up/tear down, etc. I am finally comfortable speaking in front of a crowd at a meeting, but that has taken a few years. There are all kinds of 12-Step work, and I think you are a shining example of recovery.
Don't you dare throw away 10 months of clean time!