Chad---I am sorry for the reason that you have come here. Addiction is painful.
Welcome to SR.
The way that you feel is exactly how everyone who is in the initial stages of the addiction feels. Its a family disease. It affects the family (spouses, SO's, siblings, friends, everyone around that addict/alcoholic is affected to some degree). Probably even more then the addict/alcoholic. This problem will not disappear. Everyone above is sooo very right on the money. It will progress to "out of control proportions" in a matter of time (probably sooner rather then later).
Keep reading. You will gain strength. Know you are not alone. Keep posting.
Prayers to you....I hope that you find what you are looking for.....