Originally Posted by
ChadDJC 
I just have one question though: did your girlfriend get like that all the time? Was she able to control her drinking from time to time? For me, that's really the puzzling part... her ability to control herself is very sporadic...
My husband spent many years drinking normally.
And several years after that drinking normally
most of the time.
I hear that he still, from time to time, will have a drink at a party or a glass of wine when he's out to dinner with friends.
He doesn't devolve into alcoholic chaos
every time.
But, he's been arrested for driving under the influence, he drank to the point of such physical illness that he had to be hospitalized for 4 days, and he's spent a month in an inpatient addiction treatment facility.
I would argue that you needn't wait for her to lose total control, before determining if this is a problem for you.
If you're waiting for that, you might be waiting (in chaos and discomfort) a long time. Periodic spurts of control are not signs of well-being.
I'm glad that you're here. Keep us posted.
-TC