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anvilhead · 12-03-2008, 03:28 PM

IF indeed you come to the point where you've had enough, it won't be throwing ANYTHING away frantic, it will simply be moving along your own path in life........remember right now you're really the only one "fighting" to "make it work" - yer partner over there could really give a rip.

so, what IS IT that you are FIGHTING for? seriously.....what is it about your NOW that is unacceptable? and what of that can YOU change? let's assume he keeps drinking......is that EVER really gonna be ok with you? i mean you've already gone to great lengths to try and manipulate your travel plans and forewarn the troops with "god whatever you do, don't say BIKE RALLY" and you're already forecasting your own embarassment over HIS behaviors, etc....

you've been together for 12 years right? TO DATE, how much impact have YOU had on HIS drinking??? see that's the reality of it all......

we didn't cause it
we can't cure it
we can't control it

your husband drinks.
you don't like it.
who really has the problem?

12-03-2008, 03:28 PM	#29 (permalink)
anvilhead Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 10,007	IF indeed you come to the point where you've had enough, it won't be throwing ANYTHING away frantic, it will simply be moving along your own path in life........remember right now you're really the only one "fighting" to "make it work" - yer partner over there could really give a rip. so, what IS IT that you are FIGHTING for? seriously.....what is it about your NOW that is unacceptable? and what of that can YOU change? let's assume he keeps drinking......is that EVER really gonna be ok with you? i mean you've already gone to great lengths to try and manipulate your travel plans and forewarn the troops with "god whatever you do, don't say BIKE RALLY" and you're already forecasting your own embarassment over HIS behaviors, etc.... you've been together for 12 years right? TO DATE, how much impact have YOU had on HIS drinking??? see that's the reality of it all...... we didn't cause it we can't cure it we can't control it your husband drinks. you don't like it. who really has the problem?