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Originally Posted by prodigal  When I first came to this board, I often read into what people had to say about the sad reality of alcoholism as negativity on their part. It also made me angry. I realized, in time, that when I got angry at the responses it was because they were hitting a nerve, and that nerve often hit a lot of truth. Truth that I was not willing to face. |
That is exactly the way I am feeling Prodigal. Yes, I am finding this forum really negative, and it seems as though everybody now on it has "been there, done that". And so I guess I'm just a greenhorn with all this and am still trying to see the world thru rose-coloured glasses and all this "leave him, leave him" stuff is making me pretty angry, 'cause I really want to try to find a way before I throw away all we've worked and dreamed for over the past 11 years (married for 6).
I guess I came here to try to find some sort of support for actually staying with an AH and making it work somehow. Doesn't anybody have any positive stories to tell? Is leaving really the only way? I'm just not ready to do that and just need skills and support to stay and deal with it.
I know, I know - you will all nod your heads and say "Ah, I've been thru that - the denial stage". LOL (see, I can still laugh about it!)