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Originally Posted by Epiphany00  the man who helped me get clean, is an alcoholic ... When i'd wake up at 4 am crying for a pill and he had to get up for work at 6, he'd stay up with me. He spent $3,000 on methadone. I can't give up on him. Any advice on convincing he has a problem, or even just how to tolerate it better? |
He supported you. He helped you. However, you - and YOU alone - are responsible for your addiction and ultimate recovery. If you wanted to use, it wouldn't have mattered if he'd tied you up and locked you in a closet - you would find a way to use.
Convincing an alcoholic he has a problem is like trying to teach a pig to sing. You'll get frustrated, the pig will get pi$$ed - and you will have a pig that can't sing a note.
Toleration = detachment. It is a progressive disease; it gets worse over time; and you will be pulled down with the alcoholic (referred to here as "A's"). Alcoholism is an equal opportunity destroyer that turns everyone involved into an emotional mess if they choose to go along for the ride.
I'm sorry to be the bearer of un-glad tidings. But I've been married to two A's and the only way I've regained my sanity was to get on my side of the street and attend to my affairs. I learned from experience the hard way that it is an exercise in complete futility to have "discussions" with an A to make him see the light.
His addiction. His disease. His choices. His consequences.
I'd like to hear why you sound as if you believe is he directly responsible for saving you from your addiction. You could chose to pick up tonight. He does NOT have the power to keep you from using. You do NOT have the power to keep him from drinking.