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My ex refused to separate, once I made it clear that we were headed for divorce if he did not get help and sober up (and leave our home while getting said help) he became obsessed with staying together and did all kinds of fun stuff like:
refused to go to detox and detoxed at home, twice (against the advice of his SA counselor)
took my house keys (then denied it)
hid in the bathroom for hours to drink
told our 13 year old son and my relatives that I was having an affair
told me he "would never leave" and that he was going to throw me out, then tried to leave at 11 pm drunk with our son (I am not a person who is fond of drunken power plays, this was the final nail in the coffin for him)
I filed for divorce and told him that one way or the other HE was leaving (since I was paying the house payment), either voluntarily or the police would be making him leave. I gave him 21 days to show me he had a place to go or I was going to get a restraining order (I was willing to lie to get it and told him not to underestimate me because I was willing to do ANYTHING to get him out).
Seriously if I had to do it all over again I would have just filed and thrown him out and not wasted any more of mine or our son's life giving him another chance.
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