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Old 12-02-2008, 05:48 AM   #3 (permalink)
kingston
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"All I can do is take care of myself and I need her to go. I don't think it right that I have to move out of the place that I provided for myself and allowed her to come to on condition she stay sober. Any thoughts are welcome. This sucks."

I was in a similar situation in that my AH wouldn't leave either. So, I took care of myself - I left. Your right it does suck BUT I had to do what was right for me. Ultimately the decision was me and a healthy home or chaos living with an active AH. The only person who could make the decision was me and I choose no chaos. Was it easy no, was it worth it yes.

I too had multiple reconciliations with him, back and forth, rehab, drunkeness, dry drunk etc etc. 24 years of it!

It finally stopped when I put in healthy boundaries, started my own recovery program and maintained no contact.

Keep reading here on SR, I hope you find peace - K.
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