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Originally Posted by hello-kitty  Sounds like it may be helpful for you to draw some boundaries up about the kind of behavior you find appropriate in your life. What's important to you? Maybe make a list of your values (ie... honesty, truthfulness, manners, etc. etc.) and from there, write down how you will respond if your boundaries are violated.
It's much easier to follow through on a boundary if it's written down.
IE.
I value respect. I treat my friends with respect and I expect my friends to treat me with respect. If a person is disrespectful to me, I will leave the environment immediately.
I value honesty. I am honest with my friends and I expect them to be honest with me. If I cannot trust someone, I will not let them be part of my life.
I value living drug free. If I suspect that you are using drugs, I will not hang out with you. |
I really like the advice given here but I'm sort of in the position a little more than Flame is.
It's the same guy she is referring to --- only I LIVE with him.
Does the advice change any when the contact IS up close and personal rather than being a couple of states away?