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Hands off the addict. The best advice you can give him is:
"I know youre a smart guy. I have faith you'll get this all worked out."
Maybe start focusing on yourself - attend a few alanon meetings - learn what enabling truly is and how to avoid it. Read the book codependent no more by melanie beatty, and learn what makes you tick and figure out why you think anything you do is going to have an effect on someone elses drug problem. You didn't cause it. You can't control it and you won't cure it.
If he truly wants to recovery, he will throw himself into doing whatever it takes to get better. You will know by his actions. Not his words.
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