| Working with Family Members
After a recent surgery I had, I got a call from my 1st cousin. He said he is an alcoholic and needed help. He knew nothing of AA or how to stay sober. He came to visit me in my hospital room. I told him I could only show him what I know and would need a 2-3 month commitment to do the program outlined in the Big Book. He was gung-ho about it. After I got home, our first few meetings went great. We read out of the book and talked about its meaning. We attended AA and he said it helped. Then he disappeared for a few days. Not answering or returning phone calls. That bummed me out. I had a nice private conversation here about it with somebody that really helped. I was ready to let go as it was affecting my peace of mind. Then he called and we got back to work. For a few weeks we talked alot and worked more on the Book. He is now at the point of writing inventory, and again has disappeared. Didn't show up at a meeting that he said he would. I called to make sure he was alright, just like before he won't answer or return his messages. Again it is affecting my peace of mind. So yesterday I left a message telling him I'm backing off and if he still wants to work on the program to call.
All I want for him is to find the spiritual answer. I know what is on the other side after working the steps. I don't think I was going to fast, maybe I was? He probably is just not ready for this. All I know, this has bummed me out.
I am probably learning a lesson here. Perhaps it is best to not work directly with family members. Perhaps a better way is to direct them to a strong AA member.
Andy |