How do not allow someone to do these things to you? What do you do when they do, do these to you? I say these are not acceptable to me to the A, then I am "punished" by him ignoring me or name calling me. If I confront the lie, then I am told that I'm perfect and know it all, and then he changes the subject.
When you tell him that these behaviours are not acceptable what are the consequences to him for continuing the behaviour?
You asked me what I do. Boundaries! That's what I do with just about everything. For example:
George (fill in the name) when you (fill in the behaviour) it makes me me feel (fill in the feeling). If you do this again I will (fill out the behaviour/action) in order to make me feel (fill in the feeling).
There are lots of posts on boundaries including the stickies. I examined the behaviors that my AH did and decided what I could do to.
Now I do this with just about everything. Good luck - K.