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It is this type of post which reminds me how much I need to remain sober and to take my psychiatric medication. I can't even imagine the pain that you and your family are in over dealing with this family member who is so impaired and doesn't understand, or appear to, at least, all of the implications that his behavior is causing you and your family.

I was so frightening to everyone when I was manic. I threatened my wife, I was unable to work for a period, we had a young child, and by not adhering to medical protocol, I nearly destroyed my entire life, not to mention the lives of my child and wife. I have so much empathy for you and your situation. Of course, I was on the other side, the one who was not accepting the help that was there and was needed. The only thing that worked for my family was giving me the ultimatum. Go to a psychiatrist, stop using drugs and if you don't, have a nice life.

As harsh is it may sound, your father-in-law cannot be permitted to do this to your life and to your child's life. You must truly do what you said you would do in your last sentence. He cannot hurt you or your family any more. That's simply stating that you are no longer accepting the unacceptable. Maybe in time, something will click in him and he will finally realize that his behavior has resulted in him losing his family. But, maybe he won't. That's up to him. I hope that you remain strong in your convictions and may G-d bless you and your family.