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Hi Bernadette,
I wish I knew how to do that "quote thing, I would just quote your whole post, cause I could have written it myself... This passage describes my relationships perfectly:
"Even though closeness is avoided, misery addicts and co-dependents often become attached to people and relationships that are destructive, uncaring and unsupportive. The attachment provides a false sense of security and belonging. For most ATMs and co-dependents, fear of abandonment is so great that they will do anything to avoid it. This comes from living in families where people were never really there for them emotionally."
Like you said it's a lot of work. I started here:
"process of becoming un-dependent on the effects of others. This prevents us from being controlled by the emotional needs of others, or worse, trying to change them, as a way to feel better."
"And Miles to go before I sleep" (LOL!)
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