You can't save her.
An alcoholic will not change until the pain of living the way they are outweighs the fear of getting sober.
I have two alcoholic daughters, neither of whom I tell how to run their lives.
I give them the dignity to make their own decisions, right or wrong.
Other than my daughters, I don't associate with active alcoholics because I prefer to surround myself with others in recovery.
From what you've written, saying anything to her isn't going to make a tinker's damn of difference in her mind/behaviors.
Just my opinion.
