yes,it is a confusing thing,this whole relationship issue. i agree and have lived what two people here said....this one
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I, personally, think that after this experience I'm going to resolve to be alone ... for me, that is the only action I can take that is guaranteed to keep me emotionally safe. I hope that you are able to find a better way ...
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I wasn't looking - I was happy on my own and accepted and welcomed the fact that I was going to be going it alone in life ... I didn't "pick" him ... we were friends and it grew from there ... so I'm not sure that "not looking" really works for everyone ... I thought he was sent to me - in the beginning he was everything I'd ever listed as far as "must haves" but it soon changed.
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since i left my a-ex, i have not been able to find a decent relationship.over three years now. the longest i have dated anyone is a few months, which i guess is a good thing since i have finally learned not to ignore the red flags. most of the few men i meet that are supposedly interested in me have issues. big issues. the others want sex. to me, i find the men in the past ten years or so,are very different.i,rarely get approached anymore. at first,i thought it was me,but my friends tell me the same.
at times,i do get lonely and long for someone,but times like tonight when i pull out my old journals and read about some of the crap i have put up with, i am actually relieved to not have to deal with it. and i was one who never thought i would feel this way. im not against a relationship,but im happy without one,too. so,just be yourself and let it be. and trying to find someone in this day and age who will understand and support your staying clean,well good luck with that one. five years is awesome,you should be proud of yourself---you deserve the best,dont ever settle for less just because of lonliness.