well i had signed off from relationships when i met my exabf ... I wasn't looking - I was happy on my own and accepted and welcomed the fact that I was going to be going it alone in life ... I didn't "pick" him ... we were friends and it grew from there ... so I'm not sure that "not looking" really works for everyone ... I thought he was sent to me - in the beginning he was everything I'd ever listed as far as "must haves" but it soon changed.
