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Rob B · 10-24-2008, 09:01 PM

Good stuff Steve, I haven't gotten current on these in a while, here's where I'm at today

Am I in my group a healing, mending, integrating person, or am I divisive? What about gossip and taking other member's inventories?
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I try to be, I am on a current set of amends dealing with my character defect of gossiping,this has helped me keep my mouth shut and work with the words Pause and watch as describe in step 10.

Am I a peacemaker? Or do I, with pious preludes such as “just for the sake of discussion,” plunge into argument?
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I'm ok with this one

Am I gentle with those who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive?
*
I attempt to be loving and tolerant but I can't pull that off on my own power

Do I make competitive AA remarks, such as comparing one group with another or contrasting AA in one place with AA in another?
*
Still guilty on this one

Do I put down some AA activities as if I were superior for not participating in this or that aspect of AA?
*Guilty on this one as well, I believe dances and the like are carnival tactics, we should be celebrating the power of God, but that's just what I think

Am I informed about AA as a whole? Do I support, in every way I can, AA as a whole, or just the parts I understand and approve of?
*
I stay centered with all 3 parts: recovery, unity and service

Am I as considerate of AA members as I want them to be of me?
*I try to be, most of my angst is with established members, not newcomers who don't know what they don't know

Do I spout platitudes about love while indulging in and secretly justifying behavior that bristles with hostility?
*
There are periods where I talk a better program from the podium and this site than I demonstrate in real life

Do I go to enough AA meetings or read enough AA literature to really keep in touch?
*I go to two meetings a week and read constantly

Do I share with AA all of me, the bad and the good, accepting as well as giving the help of the fellowship?
My life is an open book

Tradition Two: For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving GOD as HE may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

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Do I criticize or do I trust and support my group officers, AA committees, and office workers? Newcomers? Old-timers?
I trust folks who demonstrate they can be trusted, it doesn't come automatically
*

Am I absolutely trustworthy, even in secret, with AA Twelfth Step jobs or other AA responsibility?
*Good on this one, I take confidentiality seriously

Do I look for credit in my AA jobs? Praise for my AA ideas?
*Sometimes

Do I have to save face in group discussion, or can I yield in good spirit to the group conscience and work cheerfully along with it?
*Depends on my current level of spiritual fitness

Although I have been sober a few years, am I willing to serve my turn at AA chores?
Absolutley, rotating leadership is best, I don't ask anyone I sponsor to do something I wouldn't
*

In group discussions, do I sound off about matters on which I have no experience and little knowledge?
No, I don't talk about stuff I haven't experienced, I wish more people did this

Tradition Three: The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.

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In my mind, do I prejudge some new AA members as losers?
*
Guilty, the judge is still alive an well in my mind

Is there some kind of alcoholic whom I privately do not want in my AA group?
As long as you are alcoholic you are welcome in my home group
*

Do I set myself up as a judge of whether a newcomer is sincere or phony?
*This is a tough one for me, my book tells me to become satisfied that a prospect is a real alcoholic, how do I do this and ahere to the spirit of this consideration?

Do I let language, religion (or lack of it), race, education, age, or other such things interfere with my carrying the message?
Nope, I''m good on this one
*

Am I over impressed by a celebrity? By a doctor, a clergyman, and ex-convict? Or can I just treat this new member simply and naturally as one more sick human, like the rest of us?
I could care less
*

When someone turns up at AA needing information or help (even if he can’t ask for it aloud), does it really matter to me what he does for a living? Where he lives? What his domestic arrangements are? Whether he had been to AA before? What his other problems are?
Again, I am there to offer a suffering alcoholic a solution, everything else is insignificant

10-24-2008, 09:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
Rob B Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Southern New Hampshire Posts: 747 Blog Entries: 5	Good stuff Steve, I haven't gotten current on these in a while, here's where I'm at today Am I in my group a healing, mending, integrating person, or am I divisive? What about gossip and taking other member's inventories? * I try to be, I am on a current set of amends dealing with my character defect of gossiping,this has helped me keep my mouth shut and work with the words Pause and watch as describe in step 10. Am I a peacemaker? Or do I, with pious preludes such as “just for the sake of discussion,” plunge into argument? * I'm ok with this one Am I gentle with those who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive? * I attempt to be loving and tolerant but I can't pull that off on my own power Do I make competitive AA remarks, such as comparing one group with another or contrasting AA in one place with AA in another? * Still guilty on this one Do I put down some AA activities as if I were superior for not participating in this or that aspect of AA? Guilty on this one as well, I believe dances and the like are carnival tactics, we should be celebrating the power of God, but that's just what I think Am I informed about AA as a whole? Do I support, in every way I can, AA as a whole, or just the parts I understand and approve of? I stay centered with all 3 parts: recovery, unity and service Am I as considerate of AA members as I want them to be of me? I try to be, most of my angst is with established members, not newcomers who don't know what they don't know Do I spout platitudes about love while indulging in and secretly justifying behavior that bristles with hostility? There are periods where I talk a better program from the podium and this site than I demonstrate in real life Do I go to enough AA meetings or read enough AA literature to really keep in touch? I go to two meetings a week and read constantly Do I share with AA all of me, the bad and the good, accepting as well as giving the help of the fellowship? My life is an open book Tradition Two: For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving GOD as HE may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. Do I criticize or do I trust and support my group officers, AA committees, and office workers? Newcomers? Old-timers? I trust folks who demonstrate they can be trusted, it doesn't come automatically * Am I absolutely trustworthy, even in secret, with AA Twelfth Step jobs or other AA responsibility? Good on this one, I take confidentiality seriously Do I look for credit in my AA jobs? Praise for my AA ideas? Sometimes Do I have to save face in group discussion, or can I yield in good spirit to the group conscience and work cheerfully along with it? Depends on my current level of spiritual fitness Although I have been sober a few years, am I willing to serve my turn at AA chores? Absolutley, rotating leadership is best, I don't ask anyone I sponsor to do something I wouldn't In group discussions, do I sound off about matters on which I have no experience and little knowledge? No, I don't talk about stuff I haven't experienced, I wish more people did this Tradition Three: The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking. * In my mind, do I prejudge some new AA members as losers? * Guilty, the judge is still alive an well in my mind Is there some kind of alcoholic whom I privately do not want in my AA group? As long as you are alcoholic you are welcome in my home group * Do I set myself up as a judge of whether a newcomer is sincere or phony? This is a tough one for me, my book tells me to become satisfied that a prospect is a real alcoholic, how do I do this and ahere to the spirit of this consideration? Do I let language, religion (or lack of it), race, education, age, or other such things interfere with my carrying the message? Nope, I''m good on this one Am I over impressed by a celebrity? By a doctor, a clergyman, and ex-convict? Or can I just treat this new member simply and naturally as one more sick human, like the rest of us? I could care less * When someone turns up at AA needing information or help (even if he can’t ask for it aloud), does it really matter to me what he does for a living? Where he lives? What his domestic arrangements are? Whether he had been to AA before? What his other problems are? Again, I am there to offer a suffering alcoholic a solution, everything else is insignificant